Damon D'Amore

* Learning How to Think: “Poor initial decisions are one of the reasons we’re so busy. With poor thinking, a large chunk of your time is spent correcting mistakes. Good thinking, on the other hand, produces better initial decisions and frees up time and energy.”

* Solitude and Leadership (post includes audio version): “‘Your own reality—for yourself, not for others.’ Thinking for yourself means finding yourself, finding your own reality.”

* Transformative Experience: A Primer: “A transformative experience changes who you are – it alters your values and preferences, creating a fundamental disconnect between your pre-transformation and post-transformation selves.”

* Grief and Loss: “It’s hard to acknowledge that something that felt like a curse could also be a blessing. It took me a while to make peace with this.”

* How To See Things As They Are: “We have a habit of looking at what surrounds us through a self-referential lens. We don’t just see a thing, we see the way that thing fits, or doesn’t fit, into our lives.”

* We’ve Reached Peak Wellness and Most of It Is Nonsense: “According to decades of research, wellness is a lifestyle or state of being that goes beyond merely the absence of disease and into the realm of maximizing human potential.”

* Why You Should Try Micromastery: “A micromastery isn’t about spending 10,000 hours becoming an expert at something. Because the skills tackled in a micromastery are often simple and always repeatable, it almost always guarantees a payoff.”

* Brutal Deconstruction of Self Will Drive Improvement and Success: “I’m not suggesting becoming something that you are not, but rather understanding completely who you are. It took a while, but I realized that while every toolbox needs a hammer, every problem ain’t a nail.”

* How Our Reaction To Failure Influences Future Performance: “Next time you encounter a good or bad performance, step back and realize the importance of the next step you take.”

* Universal Laws Of The World: “If something is true in one field it’s probably true in others. Restricting your attention to your own field blinds you to how many important things people from other fields have figured out that are relevant to your own.”

* The Man Who Can Remember Every Day Of His Life: “Some say ‘forgive and forget’, but since forgetting is a luxury I don’t have, I need to learn to genuinely forgive,” he says. “Not just others, but myself as well.”

* Let’s Talk Like We Used To: “Long live the blog. Long live straightforwardly sharing what’s in our hearts.”

* How To Find A Mentor (Twitter thread): “I’ve been thinking about how lucky I am to have so many amazing mentors; everyone seems to know that mentors are important, but struggle with the process; so let’s talk about: mentors/mentorship.”

* The Powerful Predictor Behind Successful Relationships: “As meaningless as they seemed on the surface, at a deeper level, exchanges were highly nuanced, emotional signals, what Gottman called ‘bids.’ And it turns out that how we respond to bids is the key to successful relationships.”

* The Problem Of Mindfulness: “Mindfulness has become something of a one-size-fits-all response for a host of modern ills – something ideologically innocent that fits easily into anyone’s life, regardless of background, beliefs or values.”

* How To Let Go: “Letting things go is a skill we can learn, but it’s easily confused with making things go, which is usually impossible.”

* The Psychology Of Prediction: “Prediction is hard. Either you know that or you’re in denial about it. A lot of the reason it’s hard is because the visible stuff that happens in the world is a small fraction of the hidden stuff that goes on inside people’s heads. The former is easy to overanalyze; the latter is easy to ignore.”

* The Natural Cure for Burnout Is Profound and Utter Awe: “We can’t help but view our circumstances against a broader backdrop. Awe forces us, even if only for a few brief moments, to expand our awareness.”

* How To Be Happy: “Some highlights: – Be where you are, not in past or future – Surround yourself wisely (people and things) -Live below your means – Don’t compare – Exercise – Spend time in nature – Sleep – Cut out bullsh*t – Help others – Know it’s ok to be sad too.” (Brad Stulberg)

* On Adult ADD: “I believe experience is the only way to truly know what works. You can read or philosophize forever, but what are you going to try?”

* Your Brain Can Only Take So Much Focus: “Unfocus allows us to update information in the brain, giving us access to deeper parts of ourselves and enhancing our agility, creativity and decision-making too.”

* ‘Find and Follow’ Your Passion and Debunking Other Self-Help Myths: “Passion is far more nuanced than most people think, and a superficial understanding of passion all to often leads people to suffer unnecessarily.”

* Earth vs. the Universe: “Anxiety, like all our emotions, plays a key role in evolutionary progress. I’m more anxious and afraid than I’ve ever been. And it’s taking a toll. However, I continue to be irrational and jump off things, as the universe speaks to me, and demands it.”

* Habits vs. Goals: “First we make our habits, then our habits make us.”

* Inseparable Pairs: “As a rule of thumb, people who are extremely talented at one thing tend to be deficient at another. The world isn’t fair enough for it to be otherwise, and amazing skills tends to come from a hyper focus that monopolizes mental bandwidth away from learning how other things work.”

* Authenticity Under Fire: “Researchers are calling into question authenticity as a scientifically viable concept.”

* If Self-Discipline Feels Difficult, You’re Doing It Wrong: “Chances are, at some point in your life, you’ve tried to change your behavior through sheer willpower. And chances are, you also failed miserably. Don’t feel bad! This is what happens most of the time.”

* The Two Types of Authenticity – HBR Study (short podcast): “Restaurants stand in for any business in this example – if you can exhibit either one of these types of authenticity there were (clear) benefits.”

* Two Ways To Get Better At Something: “Rather than going for the maximum challenge you can handle (for a mercifully short time) you’re looking for that “just challenging enough to improve” window. And once you find it, you live in it.”

* The Power of Symbolism and The Architecture of Mind: “Symbols are among the most powerful of all ideas. Be very cautious in what you choose to take as a means of representing yourself, or what you let others use to represent things to you. The symbol is almost a direct link to your mind’s concept network, so be sure to look deeper, as it is the only way to defend your thoughts from those who would influence them.”

* The Science of Identity and Self-Awareness: “Our brains serve our bodies, rather than the obverse – a liberating idea.”

* 41 Powerful Journaling Exercises for Mind Expansion and Effective Behavior Change

* Do-Something Syndrome: “We convince ourselves that motion is better than inaction. Yet doing something isn’t the best way to achieve desired outcomes. Here’s how to get better results.”

* Zen Is All of Life: Remembering Roshi Bernie Glassman: “He would want us to stand strong in not knowing, and to bear witness to the joys and sorrows of this world, including our own sadness at his death. And he certainly would want us to meet the world with unfiltered compassion.”

* Stay In The Game: This is one of THE MOST inspirational stories of resilience and hope and persistence you will ever read and there are a ton of takeaways.

* Your Professional Decline Is Coming (Much) Sooner Than You Think: “Whole sections of bookstores are dedicated to becoming successful. There is no section marked ‘Managing Your Professional Decline.'”

* The Psychology Behind Unethical Behavior: “If no one tells you ‘no,’ you have a problem.”

* A Few Thoughts On Public Speaking: “Make your point, make it quick, make it memorable, and move on.”

* The Elephant in the Brain: Hidden Motives in Everyday Life (Book Summary): “Your brain is not the king of decisions like we’d like to think, but merely the rationalizer of them.”